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Couples counseling
Helping couples heal their relationships by empowering them to better understand both their partner & themselves.
You love each other. But that doesn’t mean things are always easy.
You’re fighting more than you used to. The ease and bliss of the early days of your relationship are gone; as you’ve become more committed, it’s like the disappointment and frustration have grown, too.
There have been a few big fights here and there, but it’s the regular, smaller arguments that are starting to really add up.
As much as you love each other, you’ve begun to wonder if you’re really supposed to be together—if you’re truly right for one another. You don’t want that to be the case, but you also know these questions need to be answered and these issues addressed in order for you to move forward.
You don’t want to go into (or continue) marriage like this. Something has to change — in yourselves and in your relationship as a whole — if this is going to be successful.
You’re ready to:
Understand why these things are happening, so you can actually change them
Be able to see your partner’s perspective without giving up your own
Navigate differences in culture, race, religion, or upbringing that are impacting how you connect to one another
Feel heard and understood in your relationship
Create healthy boundaries that support you & your partner as a unit
Equip your marriage for future success
How it works
It’s possible to mend these fractures and move into the future together, all without losing your authentic selves.
We all have expectations about how our relationships should work. When those expectations aren’t met, it becomes a recipe for anger, disappointment, and resentment. In couples counseling, we start by recognizing and communicating those expectations: which are reasonable, which are negotiable, and which are unrealistic? This gives your partner and you a common understanding to work from when it comes to the way you relate to each other.
Each of you is also bringing your own past into this relationship. You’ve been programmed to think or act in certain ways — ways that may feel normal to you but can be hurtful or harmful when left unacknowledged. Using methods like Brainspotting, I can help you unpack and process these things individually, because each of your experiences is real, valid, and deserving of attention.
Then, with approaches like Emotionally Focused Therapy, Relational Life Therapy, and Brainspotting, I can help you create new ways of relating to one another. You’ll reduce conflict, improve communication, and rebuild that strong connection that brought you together in the first place.
My goal is that you leave each session with something tangible to apply to your day-to-day: something to think about, something to try, something to read, or another tool to begin making the small tweaks that add up to big change. If your busy schedule doesn’t allow for traditional weekly or biweekly therapy, I also offer intensives. Click here to learn more.
Frequently asked questions
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During the first few sessions, we will talk about the struggles that bring you to therapy, your history, and define your goals. I use a combination or attachment, biological/neurological, and behavioral techniques to reduce conflict and improve communication and connection.
As a therapist, I have a real-life, practical, and straightforward approach. This means I will be actively involved in our sessions, helping you to achieve your goals.
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How long you will be in therapy depends on your needs as a couple. The research suggests that most therapy clients feel improvement in 12 - 15 sessions and I would expect the same for you. Some couples feel better enough that they graduate within that time. Others find that they enjoy the process of therapy and want to continue as their lives change and evolve. My goal is to help you meet your goals as soon as possible. As long as counseling continues to be helpful, I’ll be here to support you.
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It’s not uncommon for one partner to seek therapy before the other is ready to join. But that doesn't mean we can’t work to improve your relationship. I’m happy to meet with you individually in the meantime. We will work to identify your individual goals, and find strategies to improve your relationship until your partner is ready to join.
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While I can’t make guarantees, I can tell you that I know growth, healing and change are possible. I see it everyday as I witness my clients' relationships evolve and improve.
Study after study has shown that the quality of the relationship between client and therapist is the most reliable and the most powerful predictor of a positive outcome in therapy, which is why I offer a free consultation to ensure I am the right person to help you.
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Brainspotting is an evidence-based approach to help you access your body’s own capacity to heal and achieve deep, long-lasting change. Much like you might look off into the distance to try and remember something, your eye positions are linked to different areas of your mind that store thoughts, emotions, and beliefs. In Brainspotting, we can access stored trauma or pain by fixing your eye positions on specific locations.
Research indicates it may be more effective than Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) due to its increased precision.
Curious? Click here to learn more.
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As an evidence-based practice, Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) has been shown to provide quick relief from upsetting and disturbing memories and events in just one to five sessions, typically over the course of 2 to 3 weeks. All without having to talk about the details.
The directive and interactive design facilitates these rapid results at a deep neurological level, without the guesswork of free association, as in other therapies.
Research indicates it may be more effective than Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) due to its increased precision.
Curious? Click here to learn more.
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A Therapy Intensive is an accelerated form of therapy designed to help clients go deeper and get results faster. Instead of attending therapy one hour per week for a year, you can accomplish the same level of work in just a few days. Intensives are an approach to help people feel better faster.
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Contact me to schedule a free consultation with me. It’s important that you feel comfortable with your counselor, and I’ll help you decide if I’m the right fit for you.
